Traveling or just life itself.
Decisions, responsibility and effort. Those three words are the ones I would say are most important to live by at least for me. Yes there is perseverance, patience, moral, love, kindness but those are cousins or relatives of those three as if family tree starts with those three and then branch out to every direction.
Looking back on my life I could see that they were always present and always in subconscious but never in front or loud, more like your good friend who watches you form distance, just gently nodding head in disapproval but never say anything aloud to you.
Why would he, it is free will for everyone and with free will comes responsibility, responsibility to evaluate and think before any action. It is like pause button on your movie, when you discuss what is going to happen next before resuming movie and wait for the moment to see who was right.
However not everyone is equipped with all that take to be responsible as with responsibility comes a close friend that some of us never seems to acknowledge and that is effort. It is hard to make effort sometimes as that takes time, energy and conscious direction of free will.
Only when both of them walk hand in hand Effort, Responsibility then and only then the decisions should be made. Decisions are the most important in life and from looking back on my life now I see that every decision I made was not the correct one. Some I had forgot responsibility and some I had forgot effort and as with baking, if you forget one ingredient the result might look the same but definitely not taste the same.
Mistaken Love with Lust for one, looks or feel similar but they are not . If one makes effort to see things as they are, rather as they appear to be, then one can take responsibility as usually this equals to making life altering decisions. I always wanted to be married and have family with children but instead of making effort to see things as they are I just jump to decision through shortcut. Then I have mistaken the want for can as we might want things but cannot have them or we can have them but don’t want them, either is equally difficult but when one don’t make responsible effort to evaluate the conditions then decisions taken are altering rest of one life and most usually not in good terms.
Yeah some forks in the road need more effort and responsibility, some less or lets say some require more brain and some require more hearth but wisdom is the part that is needed to distinguish between those and that is unfortunately only comes with age.
Lots of people say do not regret anything, because everything is here for reason but sometimes when we know we made the wrong decision, it is hard to understand the reason as we know that it was wrong reason. When one realize that the decision was not good, it is usually after some time passed and the life path altered with kick in the backside that shake us and wake us up as when you suddenly have the split of second understanding that the stepping on railways tracks with train just seconds away was not the best decision. Yes life does sometimes run you over like freight train, hit you hard and throw you away in pieces that it is hard to put together. Just depends how many those hits you took, as even one can shatter you to the smithereens so every decision that was not made with responsible effort to evaluate the consequences will equal to the direct freight train hit.
When this happen the smithereens are so tiny and spread over was distance of time that it is impossible to pick them up and made them whole again. Pretending that the puzzle is complete without few pieces dos not make it complete and whole, just generate excuses and lies to try convince ourselves and everyone around that it is whole.
Thousand time said lie become true apparently but I disagree as no lie can ever become true as when you really make responsible effort you realize that, just by making this responsible effort is actually decision in itself. This is the best decision ever as when making decision to take responsibility to make effort, then we might come to realizing that true is the only way and lie does not have place anymore, anywhere.
In effort to be silent, came the responsibility of controlling one thoughts and when this effort starts that is the start of great decision making.
It took too long to realize that and it is even harder to practice it daily.
