How do we know what to do, when is the right time for different things in life… these sort of questions are the question, what are critical in everyone life but sometimes we do not pay too much attention to it. Sometimes we are not even thinking of it or thinking of it too much, on the other hand and as they say you cannot see the forest for the trees. Well, when we have time on our hands we should use it effectively . This might meant to sometimes be alone in silence and then maybe the answers to our question arrive as if from nowhere. But being alone and in silence is not that easy as it sounds. It require effort and responsibility from each one of us, who wish to do so. It is the responsibly for our life and wellbeing what is missing from teaching children in early age, when their minds and attitudes are forming. To let children know that it is their responsibility to make the right choices, instead just following dogma repeated in schools. This responsibility needs a lot of effort, as there is no diamond without effort. Effort to take responsibility is the biggest one of them, as everyone can see the issues of others but no one see their own, as otherwise it will require huge effort to correct them. The constant struggle in life is sometimes so overwhelming, that the effort to survive each day, seems to be the only one that is on our minds. Chasing the money, career, material possessions or dealing with the family, children making havoc at home, while we trying to cook or do some house chores needs a lot of effort and patience. When those things are done and we have time to ourselves, we are usually exhausted and in no state to try to develop ourselves. It is easy to go meditate to retreat or be in the zone when on holidays but the real effort and the real point is to be that cool person in real life. Real life is not always pleasant and we definitely don’t have all the hours of the day for ourselves, so that we can developing our virtues. However this is the real deal and most important thing to achieve. There is not real need to be perfect in a cave or on the beach on your own or with like-minded people but be that person in hectic day, that is the real need and also it is more beneficial to all around us. Once we achieve that calmness or mindfulness as this is now big word, we can see clearly what to do and when. Deliberation and learning from our past actions or as some call them mistakes, makes us better and improve us. Being patient is really important as when we are patient, we are usually slow and then have more time to hear the guidance of our actions. Some people say listen to your hearth, some say listen to God, Universe, some even say that when you hear the voices in your head, it is time to check yourself to mental hospital but it is each one of the individual who knows what is really going on. It was said many, many times over, that it is important to think about the information we receive, the intentions we have before we take any actions. This might be the hardest lesson of them all, as we are not always doing that continuously. It is our responsibility to think things overt and we need to make effort to do so continuously every second of every day as only this way, the real progress can be made. Progress starts with each one of us and when we have patience with others, they can have time to make effort to focus on their thinking, actions and make responsible choices along the days. Making effort be better human being and make responsible decisions to positively affect others is the ultimate goal for me.